Has your idea of what makes a good friend changed as you’ve gotten older?
I wouldn’t say that my ideas of what makes good friends have changed over the years, but more rather life circumstances that changed the types of relationships I can have. My schedule outside of this blog runs me 90 hours a week on the clock. I barely have time to wash my ass, do laundry, and go buy groceries, much less go have coffee with a buddy, although I would love to if the chance came up. I’ve known some great friends in my life, and I would like to think I have good judgement of people that I would call a friend. Many of them I haven’t seen or chatted with for a number of years, but I would allow them back into my life if a reconnect is in the cards for me. So going on that, I don’t think my ideas of who good friends can be have changed, but only life.
What’s a small moment from your past that you still think about years later?
Some may consider this a bit lame, and maybe it is, but when I was renting a post office box so that I could have a separate address, I always enjoyed the quick few minutes it took to go in and see if I had any mail. I would also check the trash bins to see if anyone had threw away any magazines or catalogs. I don’t rent a box anymore. They got too expensive.
Don’t strive to be well known. Strive to be worth knowing.
Don’t talk about your plans. Finish them. Sharing goals feels good, but it tricks your brain into thinking you’ve already won. Stay quiet. Do the work. Let your results speak for you.
Don’t trust anyone because people change anytime without any reason.
Don’t trust words. Trust actions.
Don’t worry if it’s hard to believe your mantra at first, as long as it excites you. That excitement reminds you that you’re on the right track. Simply decide to believe it until you actually do.
Don’t you get it? This very second you could be doing something you love and dream about doing. So do it! NOW!
Downsizing is VERY important. Strip your life down to the bare minimums and it gets easier. Realize that if you don’t need to pay for something, you don’t need to work more to pay for it. Figure out how much you want to work, then only spend what that gives you. You don’t have to cancel every subscription you have, but cancel what you don’t really use much. Skip the expensive vehicle and get one half the cost or 1/3rd. Stop wasting all of your money on unnecessary upgrades to everything. Finally start playing video games. Best value anywhere for entertainment and things to do.
Dream your wildest dreams and you will live a wild life.
Dreamers look into the future and see promise. Those who do not dream only see the future. – D. Elder
Don’t forget to imagine the best case scenario, too.
Don’t go broke trying to impress broke people.
Don’t hurt an empathetic person. You will regret what comes next. They will leave you high and dry with your stank ass bullshit alone without them for a very long time, if not for the rest of your life. No they won’t be mad. They will just be done.
Don’t let anyone control you. Take control of yourself. They will abuse the hell out of you if you let them.
Don’t let anyone who hasn’t been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces.
Don’t let the bad days make you think you have a bad life.
Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.
Don’t limit your challenges. Challenge your limits.
Don’t lose track of who you are and what you stand for. Be authentic. Be you. If you want to build something that lasts, it has to be built off of the things you are. Not what you are trying to be.
Don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.
Don’t feed every dog you see suffering. Some just need strength to bite you.
Don’t waste food. A good trick to that is to not prepare food that you hate.
Don’t ask me for anything when I’m comfortable and cozy.
Don’t attach yourself to people, projects, companies, or organizations. Attach yourself to goals, callings, missions, and purpose.
Don’t be a vibe kill.
Don’t be weak and show up because you’re lonely. Peace feels better than pretending. I don’t put myself in toxic rooms any more, and I can enjoy my holidays by myself, and still be happy.
Don’t compare your day 1 with someone else’s day 100.
Don’t fall in love with success. Fall in love with the habits that bring success.
Don’t focus on your accomplishments as much as you do continued push for greater success.
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. — Maya Angelou
Do the necessary things for your life and wellbeing.
Do what you HAVE to do until you can do what you WANT to do!! This is a hard concept sometimes, but very important if you’re trying to get ahead.
Do you just need the apartment to live in, or do you need to decorate and furnish the fuck out of it until you can’t walk through it?
Do you know somebody who is always preaching about how he or she did my best? Did they? Really? Or do you think they could have handled a few things a little differently?
Do your best, and trust the process. The harder you work, the luckier you get.
Doing something wrong for an extended period of time gives it the impression of being right.
Doing what is best for you isn’t going to feel good every time.
Don’t be among people that gossip about people, be among people that talk about investment. That’s the right circle where you grow. Investment doesn’t always mean money. It can mean building better habits that can help you, and even others without ever spending a dime. But of course building finances is always good too.
Don’t believe everything you think. Your brain can make you look stupid.
Detachment isn’t cruelty. It is clarity with boundaries. Never feel guilty for setting boundaries away from people who think they control you.
Developing a positive mindset doesn’t make your problems disappear. It’s about better equipping yourself to deal with negative situations and stressors in your life.
Difference of input is difference of output. Often what we put in is what we get out. If you’re looking for better outcomes, be a better person.
Discipline is remembering who you said you wanted to be.
Distance yourself from the people that you don’t want to become.
Do not allow yourself to be manipulated.
Do not study average people if you want rare results. Find the few who win in hard conditions. Copy the behavior, not the image.
Do people drain you? They fucking drain me too!
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
